The bliss of a joyful marriage can end when couples allow festering of unresolved disagreements. This consequently leads to conflicts and crises in the home.The dictionary defines a crisis as a turning point in a sequence of events when the situation is determined to either become better or worse.
The American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy states that marital crisis often stems from difficulties with communication. Over time, this results in arguments, defensiveness and contempt.
Realise mistakes, wrongdoings
After the source of the crisis has been established, realisation and admittance of wrongdoing or a fault by the concerned individuals is the next step in the journey.
“Learn to apologise to your partner after a mistake but this should be done appropriately. This will help your partner to be remorseful, accept their faults and settle the issues amicably. Couples should learn how to be kind and humble in their marriage.
This will bring partners to a sense of mutual understanding.”
Be forgiving
A display of individual differences can cause disagreements. Extending an olive branch whenever disputes occur will help to prevent a marital crisis.
Understanding
“A good understanding of diversity and inclusion can help build a healthy level of tolerance where either or both parties come to a place of acceptance and can work through the disputes,” Omotunde says. Arriving at a point where either party understands the issues surrounding the crisis will lead to a quicker resolution.
Talk it out
After the involvement of third parties and counsellors in the first stages of handling and resolving the crisis, couples should also engage in a one-on-one conversation on the issue.He says, “One-on-one talk time. Here both parties agree to talk about the issues without the interference of any third party.”
Seek help
“Couples who are religious may also rely on their religious leaders to help them resolve the dispute. Couples may also rely on teachings of their holy books to resolve the dispute and guide them in marriage.”
Do things together
To further help and reconnect as a couple, the marriage counsellors advise couples to restart or create activities and engagements they can do as a couple. “Doing things together will help couples manage whatever disputes they have. When couples have close contact with each other, even during a dispute, it helps to resolve it.’’.
Reflect on good memories
couples to remember the lovely moments they have had.“There are some moments in the couples’ lives that they look forward to, remember with fondness and would always love to recreate. So when there is a dispute, the cherished moments would help them attempt to resolve the disputes so that they can reunite as one.”
